Dating Women - Dating Women Who Make More Money Than You

Published: 18th June 2009
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For many women, money isn't an issue. Don't misunderstand, they like to have money, but it doesn't bother them if they're making more, or less, money than the man they're dating. Men don't feel that way. Men are taught to be the providers, so it's especially difficult for them when the women they're dating are making more money than they are. Especially if she makes a big deal out of it.

To the Women

Women who make a lot of money work hard for it. But that doesn't mean that successful dating women should look down on those who are slightly less successful. Don't avoid dating a man because he makes less than you. Unemployment, in the sense where he's unemployed and doesn't want to be employed, is one thing. But a paycheck that doesn't match yours when he's financially secure? Don't make that a deal breaker.

Most men like to provide for the women they're seeing. While it might not be a big deal in a dating relationship, men want to think they can care for women's needs and desires, especially when (and if) they tie the knot. Keep in mind:

*Men's self-esteem is often tied to their paychecks. Don't break their self-esteem by attacking their money.
*Just because he's not making as much as you doesn't mean he can't buy you flowers or pay his bills. Don't tell him to save money he wants to spend on you and don't offer him money to pay bills.
*Just because you don't see something of value in him doesn't mean he's not valuable. Where were you before you made money?

Dealing with Dating Women Who Make More

When you're dating women, the important thing is to not get tied up over money. Easier said than done, right? Instead of worrying about money, use the dating experience to get to know the person you're with. That's the purpose of dating.

Remember that you are more than your paycheck. You have things to offer women that go deeper than your wallet. Are you funny? Are you sensitive? Have you traveled? Are you good with cars or computers? Talk to her like she's a human being, engage her and communicate with her. If you can carry on a conversation with her, you'll go a long way towards making her realize that the money doesn't matter. And you might be able to convince yourself, too.

If the woman you're dating doesn't make you feel like a man because of the way she treats you, you might have to end the relationship. However, she might not be doing it intentionally. If she:

*Mentions money all the time
*Talks about the things you want that you can't get her
*Talks about wishing you could do more

Then you should just tend the dating relationship. There's no point. She's trying to make you feel bad about your situation. There's no point. A woman who cared about you would:

*Make it a non-issue
*Accepts presents you give her without demonstrating how much she can spend on you
*Discusses finances with you, instead of around you

When you get serious with women who make more than you, the money should be an "ours" instead of a "mine." Dating isn't about finding someone who makes money. Dating is about finding someone who you want to spend time with and enjoy being around. If her money is an issue, even if she's not making it one, you probably haven't found her yet.

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