Matchmakers - Historical Look at Matchmakers and Matchmaking

Published: 10th July 2009
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"Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match, find me a find, catch me a catch. Matchmaker, matchmaker, look through your book and make me a perfect match," goes the chorus of the song "Matchmaker" from the famous musical "Fiddler on the Roof." Matchmaking is anything but a new idea. For years, in many different countries and cultures, it was how people were brought together. The matchmaker would tell you who you were supposed to be with, and that was that.

How did Matchmaking Start?

Matchmaking was used in many different countries, including China and Singapore. In Singapore, matchmaking services are available to everyone, though once they were only used by the rich and famous. Jewish couples have often been matched by matchmakers. Initially, the purpose of the matchmaker was to find a man a suitable wife; one who was hard-working, strong and could bear children. In some cultures, this was a full-time job. The matchmaker would go to events and find prospects for someone. They were a chaperon, as well, making sure nothing unseemly happened while informing parents about budding romances.

Matchmakers took a lot of things into consideration, including the families, their rank in society and the happiness of both sets of parents. Matchmaking was a reasonable solution for parents who wanted their children to be cared for and provided for after they were gone. It also ensured the family line would continue. Though romance was taken into consideration, the belief was that people who shared similar interests and backgrounds could learn to love one another. And that's something that we still see today.

How Did Matchmaking Become what it is today?

Clearly, Matchmaking is vastly different today than what it was thousands or even hundreds of years ago. The internet has changed things, and so has a belief that love is the most important thing. Once, asking for help with your love life made it seem like you couldn't have a successful relationship. Eventually, the stigma changed as more people took advantage of using some kind of service to make a match.

Matchmakers use a variety of techniques, mainly compatibility, to put couples together and determine if they have a chance of survival. Matchmaking crops up in a lot of unexpected ways. If you've ever been hooked up a friend of a friend, you've been the victim of matchmaking. The good news is professional matchmakers know what they're doing. They compare interests, goals, lifestyle, habits and even financial status to pair people (in addition to specific traits individuals are looking for). Technology has made finding a match easier for people, wherever they might be. Matchmakers, both traditional and online, specialize in clients that love sports, have a certain lifestyle or share other similar interests and backgrounds.

Some forms of Matchmaking being used today include:

*Internet dating sites like Eharmony - they match you based on compatibility, show you a list of possible partners, and voila
*In-person services like the Millionaire's Club
*Mail-order Brides

Matchmakers can help you find what you're looking for because you have the opportunity to get to know yourself better. And then, you meet someone who matches the person you really are and complements that, instead of what you thought you wanted.

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