What is a date? Dates are when you go out with someone for whom you have romantic intentions. What makes for a successful date? In your matchmaking efforts, you will see that every one has a different opinion on what constitutes a successful date. Why do you go out on a date? People date to get to know each other as possible romantic interests. People date so that they can find a compatible match for a long-term romantic relationship and possible marriage. Other people date with casual intentions in mind and don't really care so much about the long-term consequences of their dating habits, but rather the immediate benefits to casually dating others. What are some of those benefits? They get to go out and have fun with those that they are attracted to and they don't have to deal the responsibilities of a more seriously committed dating relationship. The success of your dates depends on the extent of your matchmaking efforts for your dating seeking life. Only you can really define whether or not your date has been successful, but as you continue in your matchmaking efforts, you need to develop your own dating criteria for what is a successful date.
If in your
matchmaking efforts you are out on a date with a prospect and things don't go so well and you don't think that you will go out on another date with this person, was that a successful date? Well, if you are the casual dater and only interested in a good time, then it wasn't such a success. However, if in your
matchmaking efforts, you are a commitment-minded dater, then this date was a success. What?!? Even if you didn't find the perfect match who is the love of your life, you still had a successful date because you went out, first of all, and made the attempt to go on a date with someone. That's number one on the matchmaking dating success meter. Number two is that you found out that this person is not the perfect match for you. So, it was a success. Not everyone you date is going to be a perfect match for you; that's just the whole point of dating. You are trying to find a compatible match. So when you find someone that is not the perfect match, then you've had a small victory and you are one step closer towards finding your perfect match. Your date will continue to be a success if you don't get discouraged that your matchmaking efforts did not find you a perfect match, and then you go out there and get back into the field and find another dating prospect.
You have a successful date when you went out and had a nice time with someone and even if your matchmaking efforts did not bring you to that perfect match, it's still a success because you had a good date and maybe found a new friend. Life is all about choices and you can choose to be stuck in a rut and allow bad dates or unsuccessful dates to hold you back or you can allow those dates to catapult you into the future of finding that perfect match for you. This person is out there somewhere and you just need to continue your
matchmaking efforts and stay focused and know that success in finding a love is right around the corner; you just have to keep looking for it.
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