Mature Dating - Can You Handle Rejection?

Published: 27th June 2009
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Rejection in life is unavoidable. We have to deal with rejection all our lives and it can either make us bitter or a better person. If you want to be in the class of the mature dating singles then you need to learn the disciplines necessary to becoming a better person when rejection comes. When someone decides to allow a rejection to cripple him or herself inside, it can destroy this person and he or she will have a hard time trying to find happiness again until the bitterness is gone when forgiveness moves in.

Now, no one is saying that rejection is a fun experience and it shouldn't be fun. It's serious business, but it's not the end of the world. As someone desiring to be classified as a mature dating single, you need to take a breather and focus on what's important. The first step to doing this is to acknowledge that you are not alone. Don't think that you are the first person in this world that has gotten a rejection when asking someone out on a date. You're not the first and you won't be the last. There are different variables that go into every rejection situation, but you definitely are not alone and need to take solace in that fact. If you allow this rejection to paralyze you with self-pity and fear, you will never move on towards the mature dating scene. You'll be stuck as a victim of yourself and you are then your only obstacle.

If your dream date rejects you, don't get all bent out of shape. Okay, so he or she said no, but at least you took a chance and what if you never took that chance; then you'd never know and would always wonder if this person could have been the one. Wondering could lead to obsession over this person. So, now that you know he or she is not in to you, you can move on. You definitely don't want to be in a situation where you have to force someone to like you. That's not what constitutes a mature dating relationship. If this person does not like you, he or she is doing you a favor by letting you know right away. Every no is just one step closer to that yes you're looking for.

When you get this rejection, it's a given that you will start to get depressed or upset or down on yourself. It's okay to allow yourself some time to be upset, but don't wallow in it. Do you think that this person is giving you a second thought once he or she rejected you? Most definitely, he or she is not. So, don't give that rejection a second thought. Keep your chin up and take control of your emotions. You deserve someone that will love you for who you are. It's okay that you haven't found this person yet. Keep the faith alive and continue searching for your dream date.

If this person gave you a reason for rejecting you, pay attention to what was said. You don't have to necessarily listen and change anything in regard to the reason given for the rejection, but at least give it some thought. For instance, if this person says you're not his or her type; okay, then that's fine and move on. If this person was a little bit more blunt and said something about your personality or character that doesn't mesh with theirs; if he or she said you talk too much or just don't have enough self-confidence, well, you could take those under consideration and then do what you want with the comment and ignore it afterwards. Just remember that you are someone who is great and deserves to be loved and you will find your dream date, but only if you don't stop looking.

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